I’ve been telling a lot of people that I’m not ready to be engaged and the responses I get in return are so interesting to me that I can’t help but write about this topic. I know this is a touchy topic. There is no right answer to when it is the right time in life to do certain things but there seems to definitely be a wrong answer and I seem to be giving it. I actually had someone tell me I must be with the wrong partner since I’m not itching to get married…he must not be the one. That’s so ridiculous.

Maybe it’s the feminist in me or maybe it’s because my plate is completely filled with other things right now, but it is really hard to continue to see the reaction when I tell people that I don’t want that right now. Am I happy for you if you’re engaged? Yes. Am I just being jealous? No. It is possible for us all to want different things at different times and still respect each other’s decisions. It is also possible for me to not want to be engaged after two years of dating and still want to be in the relationship.

Here is why I’m so defensive about this topic. I’m passionate about a lot of things but I am not asked about those things. I have ideas that I want to put into action but I am not asked about those ideas.

I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this as well as the “when are you having babies” question for those of you who get that one.

qk